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Wed Dec 26 15:53:25 2001
M58 in Mountain View, , California =USA=

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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of Mother, 3 Weeks ago.
Cause of Death: Alzheimers;   Aged: 87.

--Details: 
     I saw this comming 2 1/2 years ago and tried to prepare myself for
this, but obviously didn't.

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--Death Is: 
     the end of physical life.  For the surviver, there is time of
emptyness and emotional loss.

--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I    
     just accepted it.

--That first time, how it happened was
     My Grandfather.  I remember my Father was very quiet afterwards,
	for a about a week or so.  Then afterwards, it was as if there
	never was a funeral.  Nobody ever brought up the subject again.

--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
     when she was wheeled on the gurney into the van and the van doors
were slamed shut, I said "good by Mother".

--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
     everyone tells me that my Mother is in a better place now.

--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
     nothing at the moment.  I'm still dealing with it.
 
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
     There is no turning back.  It's the real thing.  She will never
be back.
  
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
     Holding the person's hand.
 
--Not that it's a regret, but I would like to have better had time to:
     have had a full tank of gas, to get there in time.

--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
     I was able to speak at the funeral.
 
--One seemingly minor thing (yet important) which impressed me was when:
     The music I had chosen.
 
--I can get all teary-eyed just thinking about it all again when:
     the procession drove past the house on the way to the cemetery.

--It's sometimes so very difficult.  I just wish I could
     get over my feelings of loss.
 
--When it really hit me... when I realized & acknowledged the death, I
     I entered the limo with my family to go to the mortuary.

--Regarding MEDICINE, DOCTORS, etc:
     thanks.
 
--Regarding HOSPICE etc:
     the nursing home nurses, aids and assistance provided excellent
care for my mom.
 
--Religious Affiliation:
     Lutheran
 
--Regarding the FUNERAL:
     it was OK.

--How might you deal with yet unresolved issues from a death?:
     For the people who matter most in your live, be sure they know that
you love them.

--Any thoughts about your own death?:
     Again, for the people who matter the most in your life, be sure
they know you love them.


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1st Death event occurred in my life at: 	Teen Ager  
			How'd I do?     Adequate

What Helped me most deal with death?    Nothing at all 

What Hindered me most in my dealing with death?    Nothing at all 

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Prof/Studies: clinical sw case mgr.
 
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of Uncle,  1.5 yrs ago.
Cause of Death: cancer;   Aged: 84.

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--Death Is: 
     part of life and inevitable.  Life the best everyday and you will
not have any regrets.

--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I    
     was unable to believe it.

--That first time, how it happened was
     How it happened was...my mom is currently with terminal illness
	and failing.

--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
     he slowly faded away.

--What I think my () culture needs to better learn about death is:
     that if you avoid it it still finds you.

--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
     taught me how to live life fully everyday and to try to have
no regrets.

--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
     my husband and children
 
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
     the feeling of no control
  
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
     kindness and compassion
 
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1st Death event occurred in my life at: 	Mid-Life  
			How'd I do?     A bit rough

What Helped me most deal with death?    Knew it was coming 
     family members denial

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Thu Dec 13 12:49:54 2001
F16 in goffstown, new hampshire  =America=
Name: Kristina
Email: <Krissyv=at=mediaone.net>
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of Acquiantance,   1yrs ago.
Cause of Death: suicide;   Aged: 14.

--Details: 
     it was someone, i just didnt expect it, we used to hang out when
we were younger, and he killed himself in the place where we used
to play and shit it was devistaing,, my mom was more horrified by
it,, she used to run a consession stand there (to benifit the park)
she talked to him alot, she used to say "maybe if i stayed there
a couple more years maybe if i made a differnce" but i told her
there was nothing anyone could do

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--Death Is: 
     the end of there world, the pain and suffering of the ones left
behind, they stop

--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I    
     my first actually one was my meme, that was so sad i loved her so
much, i remeber the time we made pizza me and grammy would take her
from her home and bring her out i would dance with her it was funnyy

--That first time, how it happened was
     i was 3 and my father died i didnt understand were he "went" so i
	would always wake up at night asking random people (like my grandma
	and my moms friend) if they were my dad but it was dark and they
	just said no

--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
     going to the wake (erics the 14 yo) so many younger kids were
there crying, kids had to face this,seeing people crying over him,
seeing his sister standing next to the casket smiliing holding his
picture, she didnt understand he was really dead his little brother,
the empty look in his eyes

--What I think my (America) culture needs to better learn about death is:
     more people die of other things than natural occurance, drugs,
suicide, accidents, homicide, hate

--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
     i learnd to pay attention to people more, ive learned
 to  show my
love more

--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
     talking to my mom
 
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
     reality
  
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
     making sure they get to see everyone they want and know they
are loved
 
--[My Friend's] death taught me so much.  I'd have others know how I:
     tried to not think about it, i put it off

--The most confusing point of death for me was when:
     suicide or homicied or sudden death, what they would of said what
i could of done to help, will they come back after they die (spirit)

--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
     learn from it and i only had one suicide in my life
 
--One seemingly minor thing (yet important) which impressed me was when:
     you see the people affected, you see the pain, and you have to be
strong for them
 
--I can get all teary-eyed just thinking about it all again when:
     i think about it all over again

--It's sometimes so very difficult.  I just wish I could
     make them come back
 
--When it really hit me... when I realized & acknowledged the death, I
     i just sat down and cried

--Regarding MEDICINE, DOCTORS, etc:
     my father could still be alive today, but the doctor(who is now in
jail) told him nothing was wrong untill my mother took him to another
doctor and they found out he had intestine cancer and it was too late
 
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1st Death event occurred in my life at: 	Very Young Child  
			How'd I do?     Very Well

What Helped me most deal with death?    Other: 
     i was too young to understand


What Hindered me most in my dealing with death?    Denial 
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of Friend, 2 years ago.
Cause of Death: falling asleep at the wheel;   Aged: 21.

--Details: 
     He fell asleep at the wheel of his pickup truck. He ran off
the road, hit a culvert, and flipped several times. His sister,
she's my age and one of my very good friends, was home alone, and
it was her birthday, her brother (my friend) was coming home to
see her when this happened. It wasn't the wreck that killed him,
he was strangled by his seatbelt. It pinned him inside the truck,
and wouldn't let him breathe. THAT is how he passed.

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--Death Is: 
     The end of life on Earth, and the passing of the soul to another
life, a life in which we live on Earth to see.

--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I    
     didn't understand it. I thought that my Grandfather was sleeping,
and that he would wake up. I kept thinking that I could see him
breathe....

--That first time, how it happened was
     It was my best friends father. We were neighbors, and the same age,
	we played sports together, and her family was my second family. There
	wasn't a single day that I didn't see that man, or that I wasn't
	at their house. It definantly changed my life.

--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
     
 
 Standing on the volleyball court my Senior year of high school
wondering where my setter was. Why was she late? When she came in,
she looked ghostly herself. She told us the news about our friend,
and for the next couple of weeks, I was dazed, I didn't listen to
anything, I didn't eat, and time crept slowly by....

--What I think my () culture needs to better learn about death is:
     you shouldn't tell your kids that "Daddy's going on a journey",
or "He has to go to sleep for a while". In doing that, you make
children not want to leave their home in fear of never coming back,
and you also make them fear sleep.

--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
     Finally realizing that death can be beautiful. It can be beautiful
for the one that suffers daily, and seeing them finally in peace
is uplifting!

--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
     My friends and family.
 
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
     Facing reality.
  
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
     Hug them, kiss them, tell them you love them, and understand that
this will not be the last time you ever see them.
 
--Regarding Humor in the death process, I'd just say that:
     Laughing is normal. I laughed at my friends funeral, but only because
a thought popped into my mind about things that we have done,
and things that were said, and I found comfort in those things,
It's like he was there at that very moment reminding me that he
was always happy, and that he wanted me to be happy for what we had!
 
--Not that it's a regret, but I would like to have better had time to:
     spend more time with my lost grandparents.

--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
     spend time with grandparendts who loved me unconditionally
 
--I can get all teary-eyed just thinking about it all again when:
     I hear the song "Time" by Hootie and the Blowfish, which everyone
sung at his funeral very loudly, very clearly, and with all the
heart they had.

--In another dimension of Life where this all had never happened...
     This is my life. I can not change what has happened, I can only
wish for the best in the future.

--Religious Affiliation:
     Christian
 
--Regarding ONENESS of SPIRIT, etc:
     Free
 
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1st Death event occurred in my life at: 	Young Child  
			How'd I do?     A bit rough

What Helped me most deal with death?    My Belief System 

What Hindered me most in my dealing with death?    Disbelief it could happen 
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of Aunt,  3 yrs ago.
Cause of Death: cancer;   Aged: 58.

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--Death Is: 
     The ending of this life, and the beginning of everlasting life.

--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I    
     Didn't exactly know what was happening. I was very young and
remembered very little.

--That first time, how it happened was
     How it happened was, it was my great grandmother. I knew little
	about her other than she chewed tobacco.

--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
     Looking up and seeing my father and mother cry.

--What I think my (United States) culture needs to better learn about death is:
     It's not necessarily a bad thing. They've moved on to a better place

--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
     That my aunt was suffering and she was taken from her suffering
and was put in a better place

--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
     I had to deal with it my way. It was hard, but I found that the
best way for me was to let me deal with it on my own.
 
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
     The loss of a loved one.
  
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
     They are moving on into a world that knows no greed, hate,
or violence.
 
--[My Aunt's] death taught me so much.  I'd have others know how I:
     realized life is so fragile, and just when you think things are
getting better, another obstacle arises.

--The most confusing point of death for me was when:
     Ali Bastian died, it was unclear to me how someone so young and so
innocent be taken from this world.

--Regarding Humor in the death process, I'd just say that:
     In light of all the sorrow and pain that is around, there are
still emotions that exist mainly to protect people from the grief
and anguish
 
--Not that it's a regret, but I would like to have better had time to:
     to say goodbye when she was alive.

--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
     see that it was inevitable and to prepare myself for the events
to come.
 
--One seemingly minor thing (yet important) which impressed me was when:
     Before and after the funeral, people were laughing and enjoying
everyone's company.
 
--And exactly backwards: what we didn't make a big deal of, was:
     The only time we really get to be around each other is when something
like this happens.

--I can get all teary-eyed just thinking about it all again when:
     I remember all the good times and fondest memories I've had.

--In another dimension of Life where this all had never happened...
     I wouldn't know the life that exists now. Everyone is happy and
everyone is going on with their daily lives.

--Sometimes I think: It's just not fair...
     She was always kind and gentle, she did not deserve to be taken
before her time.

--It's sometimes so very difficult.  I just wish I could
     put up an invincible shield that protects me from all the pain that
is going on inside me.
 
--When it really hit me... when I realized & acknowledged the death, I
     became a lot easier for me to cope with the loss of a loved one.

--Regarding MEDICINE, DOCTORS, etc:
     gratitude.
 
--Regarding HOSPICE etc:
     In certain circumstances, they could have done more.
 
--Regarding CHURCHES, RELIGION, etc:
     That the beliefs we had made it easier to see that they have gone
on to a better place, and that they are at piece.
 
--Religious Affiliation:
     Catholic
 
--Regarding ONENESS of SPIRIT, etc:
     that everyone who is a generally good person will have everlasting
life, regardless of religion.
 
--Regarding MONEY:
     it wasn't an issue
 
--Regarding the FUNERAL:
     everyone came together to support one another and to pay their
respects.

--The weirdest part of it all to me was:
     it didn't seem like they were gone.

--SOME OF THE COMMON SIGNS OF DEATH :
     The denial that the people I care about will no longer be in the
living form.

--SOME OF THE COMMON STAGES OF GRIEF: 
     acdeptance is the hardest, but the last milestone to overcome
 
--RE: Visions from the 'Other Side':
     she was at piece and contentment when she finally passed away.
 
--RE: Near Death Experiences:
     No instance has occured to my knowledge
 
--How might you deal with yet unresolved issues from a death?:
     For those issues you can't resolve with your lost loved one, the
important thing is to learn and mend the issues you have with those
who are still alive.

--If we were to visit one last conversation...
     I'll tell them goodbye and that I'll always miss them, I'll always
love them, and though I may not always speak of them, I'll never
forget them.

--RE: After-death visits from our loved ones:
     I remember hearing about a little girl who woke up and her parents
told her that her grandmother had died.  She said she knew cause
her grandmother came to her in a dream and told her goodbye.

--Regarding Rights & Wishes of the Dying:
     Though ending one's own life is the most selfish act anyone can
possibly do, it however is their life and they can do with it what
they see fit.

--Any thoughts about your own death?:
     I wouldn't want to know. Going through the dying process is stressful
enough. Knowing exactly when you're going to die will be even worse.

--Any Coping Ritual or Event you invented / devised to help you cope:
     I prayed and spoke to them. I told them that I loved them, will
miss them, and I told them to save me a seat.

--Any Coping Rituals or Events which have carried over into your life?
     Sadly, there aren't too many. In time I heal and when the healing
process is over, I fail to continue to realize all the things I
did before.

--Any New Friends emerge in the shared grieving process of Death?
     Though I don't often talk to her, I have become closer to my
cousin Jackie

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1st Death event occurred in my life at: 	Very Young Child  
			How'd I do?     Adequate

What Helped me most deal with death?    Ability to Forget 

What Hindered me most in my dealing with death?    People's Stories, etc. 

--As for reaching out helping others now as part of my healing process:
     I didn't really reach out, my best way of coping was to keep to
myself about the issue and deal with it as I saw fit, however,
I was always there in case anyone needed to talk about it.


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     It has brought up a lot of painful memories, but it made me remember
all the loved ones that have come in and out of my life and all of
the cherished memories I will forever have.

- - - Any other questions you feel we should have asked here? 
     If you were to find out that you had a short time to live, would
you tell anyone, if so who and why?

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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of GrandMother,  months ago.
Cause of Death: heart attack;   Aged: 81.

--Details: 
     She had a tumour on her heart which eventually burst and killed her.

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--Death Is: 
     Death is when someones soul leaves the body of the person. All
functioning pats of the body now no longer work so ie. they cant
talk to anybody.

--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I    
     Devistated because i was very close to the person, we had a good
relationship.

--That first time, how it happened was
     How it happened was...It was my Grand mother.

--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
     Everybody was extremly sad and the mood was very somber.

--What I think my (ireland) culture needs to better learn about death is:
     That a death should be a celebration of someones life. the dead
person has now gone somewgere beter.

--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
     When my dead grandmother looked after me the morning if my big exam

--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
     My familly and my friend.
 
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
     WAs initially when she died.
  
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
     I would suggest to the dying person that their just "being there"
made an awful lot to me.
 
--The most confusing point of death for me was when:
     I saw her lying there in the coffin

--Regarding HOSPICE etc:
     nothing
 
--Regarding CHURCHES, RELIGION, etc:
     practiciing ones religion
 
--Religious Affiliation:
     roman catholic
 
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1st Death event occurred in my life at: 	Teen Ager  
			How'd I do?     Very Well

What Helped me most deal with death?    Family's Sensitivities 
     crying and friends sensitivity.


What Hindered me most in my dealing with death?    Memories to hold 
     the funeral
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of Friend, 4 ago.
Cause of Death: driving underr the influence of drugs;   Aged: .

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--That first time, how it happened was
     How it happened was... a very close friend of mine died

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1st Death event occurred in my life at: 	Pre-Teen  
			How'd I do?     A bit rough

What Helped me most deal with death?    Illicit Drugs 

What Hindered me most in my dealing with death?    Alcohol 
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of Neighbor, 15 ago.
Cause of Death: natural causes;   Aged: 55.

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--That first time, how it happened was
      An elder neighbor whom I was close with

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1st Death event occurred in my life at: 	Young Child  
			How'd I do?     A bit rough

What Helped me most deal with death?    Family's Sensitivities 

What Hindered me most in my dealing with death?    Other: 

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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of GrandMother,  11 yrs ago.
Cause of Death: suicide;   Aged: 66.

--Details: 
     she didn't want to be a burden on my parents

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--Death Is: 
     the end

--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I    
     was in shock

--That first time, how it happened was
     How it happened was...my grandmother commited a suicide, i wasn't
	told it was a suicide, and i accidentally found a death certificate

--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
     my grandfather crying

--What I think my () culture needs to better learn about death is:
     to speak more about it

--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
     time

--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
     time
 
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
     anger
  
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
     Listening emphatically
 
--[My GrandMother's] death taught me so much.  I'd have others know how I:
     forgivness

--The most confusing point of death for me was when:
     i first learned about the nature of death many years later

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1st Death event occurred in my life at: 	Pre-Teen  
			How'd I do?     Adequate

What Helped me most deal with death?    Distractions 

What Hindered me most in my dealing with death?    Distractions 

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Tue Dec  4 04:06:41 2001
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of Neighbor, 1 month ago.
Cause of Death: a heart attach;   Aged: 50.

--Details: 
     My boyfriends father died, on Halloween. Two years ago his older
brother who was aged 19 died in a car crash on Christmas eve. Since
then my boyfriend was also in a car accident in which his best
friend was killed a year ago on Easter day.

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--Death Is: 
     When a person is no longer here, but his/her soul has either risen
or fallen to hell.

--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I    
     was very upset and dwelled alot on it.

--That first time, how it happened was
     How it happened was a friend in school father died of cancer

--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
     Two years ago my uncle commited sucide, the year before that my
other uncle had also taken his owen life

--What I think my () culture needs to better learn about death is:
     The person must be in a better place and is no longer suffering.

--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
     the way people came bonded, and turned to each other

--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
     Friends and family
 
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
     Realalising you will never see that person till u pass on
  
--[My Uncle's] death taught me so much.  I'd have others know how I:
     Talked about it and didn't keep it all locked up

--The most confusing point of death for me was when:
     beleving it. I alway's believed it was a sick joke

--One seemingly minor thing (yet important) which impressed me was when:
     every one came together and just was their for the family and
friends of those who died
 
--I can get all teary-eyed just thinking about it all again when:
     my uncle who lived with us fell, and died sudnley. The last time
i saw him it was both our birtdays, and i never told him how much
i loved him

--When it really hit me... when I realized & acknowledged the death, I
     talked

--Regarding CHURCHES, RELIGION, etc:
     Praying and singing was also sad but it helped to rember the person
 
--Religious Affiliation:
     I am a Roman Catholic
 
--Regarding ONENESS of SPIRIT, etc:
     I believe that every person has the right to life, no matter race,
gender, creed ext., everyone has a soul and when they die then they
will be rightfully judged.
 
--Regarding the FUNERAL:
     the amount of people there, it was nice to see that he person was
so well loved

--The weirdest part of it all to me was:
     watching the casket go into the ground. I always and still do acpect
te person to jump out and go 'only joking'

--RE: Visions from the 'Other Side':
     I have none or heard of none
 
--RE: After-death visits from our loved ones:
     Sometimes i see them in dreams but it more like flask backs of out
times together, and it seems like they were always and still are here

--Any Coping Ritual or Event you invented / devised to help you cope:
     Just praying and tlking to the person, because i know that they
can here us

--Any Coping Rituals or Events which have carried over into your life?
     It matured me alot, and I respected smaller things like spendinf
time with family

--Any New Friends emerge in the shared grieving process of Death?
     Me and my boyfriend, became particullry close after his brother was
killed, but inl started dating each other after the car accident
in which his friend was killed.

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1st Death event occurred in my life at: 	Pre-Teen  
			How'd I do?     A bit rough

What Helped me most deal with death?    Family's Sensitivities 
     Friends

What Hindered me most in my dealing with death?    Prayers 

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Sat Dec  1 19:53:02 2001
F20 in middletown, ri  =usa=
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of Cousin,  2 mounths ago.
Cause of Death: drug overdose;   Aged: 21.

--Details: 
     On the same day that my cousin died, my brother's best friend who
is only 18 died in a car accident.  It was a very bad day.

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--Death Is: 
     death is no longer being alive.  it is when someone has to leave
the world we now and go on to the next.

--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I    
     didn't really understand it at all, I remember my great grandmother
died when I was 4 and all I remember was jumping on my bed.  But as
you get older you realize what death is and it becomes more real
and freightning.

--That first time, how it happened was
     How it happened was...  my neighbor and his friend were smimming
	and his friend drowned.  I knew both of the boys and was very
	close to my neighbor.  I was very scared because the boy was only
	a few years older then I was.  Also, for a time wew were scared
	that Kyle, my neighbor, also had died because he was missing.
	My family and I sat with his mother until we got the news that he
	was alive, but his friend, another neighbor, was dead.

--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
     It is hard for me to say what the most significant death in my
life has been.  My grandfather's death (of cancer) effected me
very negativly, but I knew that it was coming as he was sick for
a long time.  I still have dreams of him before he was sick and of
the last time I saw him when he was very sick.  My cousin's death as
well as my brother's best friend's deaths were also very hard due
to the fact the they happened so close together and because both
boys were so young and their deaths both unexpectede nad preventable.

--What I think my (usa) culture needs to better learn about death is:
     what happens to someone after they die

--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
     the support of my family and my friends.  Mostly my sister also
helping others has always helped me as does tsalking about the
situation.

--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
     my sister
 
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
     going to the funeral
  
--The most confusing point of death for me was when:
     my cousin basicly killed himself because he overdosed.  I'll never
understand why he did it.

--Not that it's a regret, but I would like to have better had time to:
     to know my cousin better and make him realize that he was loved
and would be missed so much today

--But some things worked out so well... I'm SO GLAD I was able to:
     spend time with him when we were younger and know him and love him
 
--One seemingly minor thing (yet important) which impressed me was when:
     i hugged my aunt and family and felt my cousin's love and his
presense
 
--I can get all teary-eyed just thinking about it all again when:
     i see someone that kinda looks like him and I say thats charlie
and I start to say hi, then realize he's gone

--In another dimension of Life where this all had never happened...
     i wouldn't be so sad and so scared.  I now realize how death close
is, it doesn't just visit the old

--Sometimes I think: It's just not fair...
     he hardlt got a chance to live and didn't get a chance to say goodbye

--It's sometimes so very difficult.  I just wish I could
     forget about it, be someone else
 
--When it really hit me... when I realized & acknowledged the death, I
     cryed and cryed

--Regarding MEDICINE, DOCTORS, etc:
     trust and understanding
 
--Regarding MONEY:
     it didn't matter
 
--Regarding the FUNERAL:
     that we were togther and comforted each other

--The weirdest part of it all to me was:
     laughing, being glad I'm alive

--RE: After-death visits from our loved ones:
     i've dreamt of my grandfather but I never thought he was sending
me a message

--Any thoughts about your own death?:
     I have been thinking about my own death latly.  I'm scared because
it can happen to anyone att anytime.  latly i've been taking alot
less for granted and ive been worring more.

--Any Coping Ritual or Event you invented / devised to help you cope:
     crying and talking...ice cream

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1st Death event occurred in my life at: 	Pre-Teen  
			How'd I do?     Adequate

What Helped me most deal with death?    Talking to People 

What Hindered me most in my dealing with death?    Thoughts of the Afterlife 

--As for reaching out helping others now as part of my healing process:
     i just went to the house of my cousin and talked with my aunt.
I also went over to my brother's friend house and talked to his
family.  I spent alot of time talking with my brother and just
being there.

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Sat Dec  1 07:13:01 2001
F20 in Xanten, Nordrhein-Westfalen  =Germany=
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Most Significant Recent Death Exp was death of GrandMother,  months 11 ago.
Aged: 85
--Details: 
     She died of age

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--Death Is: 
     Someone is leaving is this world to go a new world which we bleive
is like a paradis.

--The first time I ever experienced someone's death, I    
     was upset and crying alll the time

--That first time, how it happened was
     How it happened was... 
 When my grand father died was 10 years
	of age

--The Most Vivid memory I have of this most recent death is:
     that on my grandfather' s funeral the sun was shining all of a
sudden. I had this feeling he is with us now.

--What I think my (Germany) culture needs to better learn about death is:
     That nothing is the end. There is the paradis and then rebirth. So
people need to not worry. As the other person is relieved now as
they have managed what is stilll ahead of us.

--One gift for which I shall always be grateful is:
     I have lived in this place and was many times rescued from dying. I
have got many excellent friends.

--What was of most support to me in my experience with death was:
     Was talking to all kinds of people about it.
 
--And the most difficult for me in my experience with death was:
     Not being able to see this person here on this in this life again.
  
--Regarding just Being There for someone dying, my advice would be:
     You are a ;loveable and are still with us all the time. Thank you
for all you have been in this world. You have brightened upo the
life of many people....
 
--[My Self (impending)'s] death taught me so much.  I'd have others know how I:
     Is that when I wanted to commit suicide I was stopped andn I am
grateful because I know now most of the time what I am living
for... All these nice friends, flowers, sun, fresgh air,....

--Not that it's a regret, but I would like to have better had time to:
     Say thank you once more and ask my grandma about her childhood
experiences

--When it really hit me... when I realized & acknowledged the death, I
     Grew as a person and hgained maturity

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1st Death event occurred in my life at: 	Young Child  
			How'd I do?     How well

What Helped me most deal with death?    Thoughts of the Afterlife 
     My grandmother said he would be with God and she strengthened
my belief

     Nothing
 
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